How do you feel about arranged marriages? Do you think that they are acceptable or is it ok for some religions to do this? My problem is what if you really do not love them? Is that not wrong in your eyes?
Hard one this as some actualy do work but I would have to say if there is any form of coersion then I am against it
I have heard of some working as well. But I feel that one needs to know and be in love or fall in love with someone before marriage takes place.
I suspect arranged marriages are statistically less likely to be successful. I'll try and find some data.
I am not sure if they are less successful. I just could not imagine having my marriage arranged. It seems like you have to love someone first to be married to them. I wonder how many are actually in love?
Yeah arranged marriages seem to me to be not a good reason to marry someone. I understand that arranged marriages are an important part of some cultures, and perhaps there was a time and place when they had good reason to do arranged marriages, but I don't think that makes it "right". Also, even if the success rate (in terms of divorce rates) of arranged marriages turned out to be very high, that could be for any number of reasons. For example, they likely occur in a culture in which divorce is heavily discouraged or even not allowed. A marriage in such a culture may not even take love or happiness into account when deciding if a union was successful.
That's a tough question to answer, because my family would never do that. If I had grown up in a culture where arranged marriages were the norm, then I might be more likely to agree to that kind of thing. But in my situation, no, I don't think that I would.
Yeah my family would never do that either. I just do not think I could marry someone if I did not love them.
Marriage for love is actually a rather new development. Arranged marriage survived as the primary form in the aristocracy until the First World War. King George V (reigned 1910-36) was more or less an arranged marriage. In the lower classes in the West it only started to die out during the 19th century. It's not unheard of today in India and the diaspora from the sub-continent.
Interesting. I'd like to point out that in many parts of the world, abolitionism is also a fairly recent development, also as recent as the 19th century in the US. I'd like to think that this trend away from arranged marriages is just another step towards a more civilized, egalitarian society. I don't buy into the concept of cultural relativism - I believe that cultural elements can be judged objectively against an absolute standard of values.
